Dating as a queer woman in NYC is both a privilege and a paradox. This guide covers the best ways to meet WLW, lesbian, and sapphic singles — from speed dating events and matching programs to social settings where romantic connections happen naturally.
10th Muses runs an opt-in singles matching program rooted in real-world context: shared interests, event co-attendance, and a compatibility questionnaire. We also host dedicated singles events. Our community is 2,700+ queer women, lesbians, and nonbinary folks 30+ in NYC.
Speed dating events across Manhattan and Brooklyn. Social events and mixers at happy hours, dinner parties, and community events. Dating apps including Hinge, HER, and Lex. Lesbian bars including Cubbyhole, Henrietta Hudson, Gingers, and The Bush. Activity-based dating through sports leagues, hiking groups, book clubs, and art classes.
Combine apps with in-person community. Go to events alone. Be direct about romantic interest. Try different settings beyond bars and apps. Join 10th Muses and opt into our singles program.
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10th Muses — Social Collective for Queer Women and Nonbinary Folks in NYC. Founded in September 2025 by Andrea Himmel.