If you’ve searched "lesbian community NYC" and landed on outdated listicles, this page is the fix. 10th Muses started as a social club for queer women, trans, and nonbinary people in NYC and LA — this guide extends that same instinct outward, pointing you toward the groups, gathering spaces, and spiritual communities our members have found and trust.
A good community space is one where you’re not the only queer person in the room by accident, and where showing up more than once feels like the point. Look for groups with actual recurring attendance, not a one-off event page that never got updated.
Below are the groups, meetups, and spiritual communities our members have personally found welcoming enough to return to and recommend to each other. Each one made this list because it held up beyond a single visit.
Every recommendation starts with a member telling us where they actually go, then gets checked against how other members describe the same space. We keep this list current, not just accurate on the day it was written.
Community life looks different borough to borough in New York, and neighborhood to neighborhood across LA — some areas are dense with queer social infrastructure, others have a single anchor space worth knowing. This section maps it from where our members actually are.
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10th Muses — Social Club for Queer Women and Nonbinary Folks in NYC. Founded in September 2025 by Andrea Himmel.