Finding a barber, salon, or spa that gets it — your name, your pronouns, the haircut you’re actually asking for — shouldn’t take three tries and a bad memory. This page holds the queer-friendly barbershops, lesbian hair salons, and trans-inclusive spas our members in NYC and LA trust, because they told us so first.
The best sign isn’t a rainbow decal — it’s staff who ask before they assume, pricing that doesn’t quietly change once they clock you, and a client base that includes people like you on any given day, not just during a "pride special."
Below are the barbers, stylists, estheticians, and spas our members return to and recommend by name in our group chats. Each one is on this list because someone in the community vouched for the actual experience, not the website copy.
We start from member word-of-mouth, then confirm it holds up across more than one visit and more than one person’s experience. A pick stays on this list only as long as our community’s feedback backs it up.
Some neighborhoods have a queer-owned or queer-staffed option on nearly every block; others have exactly one worth knowing about. This breakdown, built from where our NYC and LA members actually go, gives you a place to start.
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10th Muses — Social Club for Queer Women and Nonbinary Folks in NYC. Founded in September 2025 by Andrea Himmel.